Current Events

What were the specific activities complained of? What did they MEAN? To WHOM, and exactly WHEN?

What did the shooter FEEL, from what experience, or lack of experience... and so FEEL and THINK he was doing?

Don't all people sense the Golden Rule, Karmic Retribution, and their importance for living in peace for every one of us?...

Using the wrong metric prevents us from giving or receiving accurate assessments of the phase, relevance, and meaning of any behavior together!

In essence, their behavior with boys was assumed to be "sexual" because our social narrative has mistakenly missed the importance of affection based Eros enhancing, and a whole Phase of Male development with it!

How thinking Philosophically, outside the cultural box, can help us understand these culturally incriminating situations...

How can we determine the MEANING of behavior we have only been told about, to consider the various reactions involved, let alone determine the meaning of, if, either then or over time... something has changed?...

What direction should we take?...

The Jeffrey Epstein / Ghislaine Maxwell Dilemma...

• Posit: Every meaning is composed of both a background environment and a foreground event...

• What are the foreground and background of each accusation?

  • Were some associations of prior taught meaning spliced onto new situations?

    • By whom? At what time(s) in the length of each girl's growth and relating?

  • Were prior events, or ages at different times, being conflated with later ones?

• If we don't go PAST cultural fears turned into law we won't be getting to the ROOT meanings involved, we won't be able to understand what was really going on, and will be left without an accurate analysis or assessment because we would be assuming too much to actually know!

• We need to know both the background context environment, including its metric ideology, as well as foreground activities and their associated emotional dynamics, to determine an accurate picture, feeling, and comprehension for what was happening and how those involved felt about it, at what time or length of time.

• If we are left without a clear picture of what these components are, we are left with only a phantom of our imagination's creation, to deal with!

Let's begin at the beginning...

Consider the 4 Phases EACH sex naturally gives and receives...

Mothering (Attracting to herself, affectionate regard)

Fathering (Circulatory affectionate connecting and sharing)

Female Nature Nurturing

Affection based, Eros degrees enhancing Female growth regarding support

Male Nature Nurturing

Affection based, Eros degrees enhancing, Male growth regarding support

Mating (Female pheromones seducing a male DNA match)

Mating ( Male drive to impregnate female DNA matches)

Marriage ( family arrangements) or supported Independence

Lifestyle choice (Circulatory supporter, including flexible family arrangements, single life, and / or settling down)

Now... Consider what conflating these phases (especially with socially constructed and programmed goals and expectations) may cause us to feel or think OUT of natural context ...

And worse, what missing one or more phases can cause, emotionally! ...

GOMVP presents this section in an effort to help everyone better see the Philosophical implications of what may seem to be only Current Events, but represents much deeper thinking leading us to asking more intelligent questions about what seems to be obvious already, but needs more seriously academic clarifications to fathom. Please let us know what you think! And, while this is a site for males to understand ourselves better, females are welcome to think and comment at this level with us as well!

PS. We thank P2 for his Phases Chart above. He thought it would be helpful to our task here, and reminds us to look for it's fuller defining in one of his not yet published future PDF books on the subject of restoring and improving our masculinity (V1B4). He offered the tagline heading below as an interestingly appropriate  analogy for our discussion of this important social dilemma, one that prevents our understanding each other better, together.

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To solve this confusion, and the others noted above as well...

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General survival bonding

Personal relating bondings

General reproduction drives

Personal Love

The Phantom of the Ghislaine Maxwell-Jeffrey Epstein "Opera"...

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Humans were designed to both give and receive caringly loving feelings to both get through and appreciate the many stages of development and environmental accommodation it takes for biology to get us to the independent, caring beings our Positive Identities can offer today! So why would we rather abandon the GOOD Eros feelings life gave us to enjoy life and motivate meaningful relating with each other without developing it; so ready to condemn others trying to share it as a normal part of regarding our individual rights, that presumptions abounded, and accusations rained down, instead of trying to consider what it meant to whom!?

Initial Sketch: To see Ghislaine Maxwell is to see a warm, welcoming, intelligent, independent and caring woman who remembers what it was like to be a growing girl, and feels love for girls herself, especially in a Female Nature Nurturing (see 4 Phases Chart above) sense, particularly teens, and wants to help them see not only that other females besides their mothers can share loving feelings with them and help them grow in their Female Eros growth phase with intelligence, but that men need not be always thought of as needing to automatically avoid closeness with, as they might have been generally told earlier in their lives to prevent them getting babies way too early, but that many men can be kind and friendly and can regulate and control their Male Eros and Male Sexual feelings, when they've learned how to, especially in Phase 2, because life made us all, male and female, able to share enjoyable Eros by degrees, according to environments we're  born in.

@ 0-7

@ 7-17+

@ 13/18-50s

@ 7/18-life

[@ natural / societal inception-length]

We find ourselves lost in an obscurity of conflated meanings emanating from a misty background with ominous clouds rolling in, all threatening to douse the light of the only thing we have left to make sense of them ... not emotional demands, but reasoning minds!

So let's hypothesize by putting some of this human puzzle's parts on the table to work with

Contradictory seeming experiences and perceptions...

Contradictory seeming perceptions

If you would like to see P2 publish a fuller article on this subject, with a logical conclusion given his experience with males, transferred to females as well, to be shared as a logical option for thinking about this kind of issue, in our Store Opinion Section, just email below. Your nick name is fine, as are regular letters, to express your feelings. As P2 is already more than 3/4 of the way through his next release (V1B2) he will probably be short on time, but says he'll help if further work is requested.

Initial Sketch: To review Jeffrey Epstein's persona, via the pictures and videos extant in social media, is to see a man who seemed to almost always be in a good mood, and very relatable in his identity, positions and roles. His perceptions seemed to be in sync with a more basic humanity many like him... in touch with life itself and honest feelings we all have, felt freed and happy to join with him in sharing as larger family, world wide. The fact that he stressed natural relating with each other and neither condoned nor offered any illicit drugs at his many get togethers with the more successful people in life, speaks volumes to how his behavior was trusted by so many, who never saw him as a threat, but an opportunity to enjoy natural life and one's accomplishments with others who had become successful too.  That they overlooked troubles with court cases against him, could be because he reminded many of their own experiences with accusations from dealing with so many people, and the many misunderstandings that entails, as he did, themselves.  As an individual you have a sense of how trustworthy a person is by dealing with him personally, and how his relating with you helps you feel, much more so than how others somehow decided they could not. 

Among the cast of characters in this "Opera Populaire" were not only the many usual folks either Ghislaine or Jeffrey came in contact with daily, but heads of state and business as well, almost always marked by the open and outgoing personalities of people like Bill Clinton, Donald Trump, Prince Andrew, Bill Gates and many other Good men who enjoy dealing with people in all walks of life and helping them whenever they can.  So when we look for the "Phantom" behind this get together of so many interesting people in our own day and age, what we are looking for is the source of a "disfiguration" of some sort, that transforms people from being seen as good, as these people certainly are, especially when they were originally perceived, to becoming, for some, a curse that no one dare admit anything to do with and which drives otherwise productive and loving people to madness and ruin, not to mention intimidating the masses to vilify even his name... "Voldemort" style (as so adeptly portrayed in the Harry Potter saga). 

     In this philosophical analysis, let us realize that the ID of who this modern day "Phantom" may be can be quite different than the movie (2004 or earlier) and reflect a fear we have come to feel from all being warned of something which few seem to have anything more than either misrepresentatively extreme examples of, or values judgments about "any such thing", to refer to it with. To figure it out intelligently, we must do better!  Is it any wonder then,  that when we are all made to believe that there is something monsterous out there, invisible and hurting our kids, that even despite court cases convicting many in the name of it, few know how to identify such monsters from lack of actual experience, want to get every scrap of evidence they can to better understand just what really did happen, who really was hurt, how, and how such seemingly successful people could change their persona so quickly to become suspect as a monster... as if the old story of Jeckyl and Hyde somehow resurrected itself here.  Keep in mind that sometimes, such a monster is more in the mind of the beholder, than the physical world, and that simply associating anyone's physical presence, even with a possible monster, doesn't logically prove inferred or shared meanings of guilt.

     A philosopher's first impression of this scenario is one of nebulous contradictions to explore, and how a more communal misunderstanding could be at the center of the fears evoked, while still recognizing and trying to make sense of just why a few initial complaints could turn into so many (>10%) accusations, fervently pleading for help from saying they felt such a horrible experience that they had to tell a very frightful story. So let us also search for the stories we have not been able to hear to compare with...  original male voices; and note here that we are also looking to hear from original female voices with another side of the story than we have been led to believe so far, to tell, as well.

      Further,  as we listen more deeply to all sides, to better analyze the whole story here, let us continue to logically search for the truly elusive Phantom, destroying so many good lives. While continuing to offer comfort and understanding to any who felt victimized, by these events, let us honestly ask just what kind of mentality inflicted such fear and loathing, what actual activities evoked what  feelings, resulting in exactly what responses, then and later, not just values judgements on top of values judgements,  supporting each other. Thus, very possibly, all built on what we may find to be falsely construed premises.

• So many nebulous words and concepts being mixed together as if they all applied at the same time...

  • Terms such as "child," "sexual," "horror," "harmful," "creepy," "pedophilic," "dangerous", "molesters..."

    • Why are teenagers still called "children," when even 2,300 years ago children were those under 8, marital responsibility was given at 13, and both Eros and mating were seen as normal parts of life.

      • Thus, how could something so naturally normal as mere nakedness or touching be conceived to be horribly oppressive and Inappropriate... begging the question; "inappropriate to WHOM"... if only a relative few of the 200 some girls involved complained, it wasn't from life's feelings, and so probably came from others around them warning them sternly, disgustedly, and relentlessly.

What might Ghislaine have been trying to do?...

          Given her warm and friendly attitude and calm demeanor, Ghislaine could have been trying to give young girls the help either she wished she had at their age, and had found out was overgeneralized, or wanted to share what she found out about the human male that no one tells young girls... that they can be friendly, enjoyable, and share Eros to varying degrees if only they had learned it that way, and that girls could learn to control their own Female Eros development with older females first, to see that, as she may have learned, as well. If Ghislaine thought she was doing THAT, then she WASN’T guilty of “sexual abuse” with any girl, on an essential level,  just showing them what is appropriate to their age and level of Female Eros (something that is native, not frightening, enjoyable not painful, and helpful not harmful to young people's oneness with life...) which would reflect how genuinely she had real human female loving feelings for the girl as her own individual and unique human self; something that isn't understood in current codified social expectations, but in LIFE created feelings and intelligent social relating which our cultures are way too far behind in ever updating, for centuries. People have been made to feel emotionally intimidated from so much as thinking about let alone discussing this long overdue subject, with each successive generation trying to make worse punishments for the same assumed problematic behavior, often to "prove" their "adult" status, while not even trying to  separate the wheat of good Eros from the CHAFF of actual mating (“sexual exploiting”) displacement problems.

Every story has at least two scenario sides and sometimes many more...

So Let's sketch out a positive scenario rationale to counter the negative ones automatically assumed...

• When we hear so many values judgements:

  • Such as "sexual abuse," or "molesting" or "creepy," or "harmful," or "offensive," or "dangerous" ...

    • Why do we never hear what actually happened?... did a client slide off his covering during a massage and show a bare butt to be massaged too? Did he sport a boner with or without covering?

      • Thus, does "sexual abuse" mean actual mating before age 18, or simply seeing body parts or touching them or being touched by the person receiving the massage, and if so, with what attitude... appreciative or coercive? If we're told it's too horrible to say, it is more likely an excuse not to give the whole story.

    • if any penis-in-vagina sex happened, how old was the girl involved at THAT time... Was she 18 by then? Had she started working for Epstein as a masseur for a few years previous, then thought ready to engage in mating by then? And, was THAT activity at a different setting, with a girl's acceptance, and responsibility taken in terms of contraceptives or signed monetary remuneration? did Ghislaine even have anything to do with THAT activity, if it did happen at all?!

      • Thus, how could something so naturally normal as mere nakedness or touching be conceived to be horribly oppressive and Inappropriate... begging the question; "inappropriate to WHOM"... if only a relative few of the 200 some girls involved with Ghislaine offering them apprenticeship in massaging, complained after they learned about the work from her, and understood what would initially be expected of her, it wasn't from life's feelings, and so probably came from others around them having warned them sternly, disgustedly, and relentlessly, with what to them was the honorable purpose of preventing babies, but not giving the poor girl information as she grew to counter such a male-as-monster perception being continued too long, and Eros portrayed as nothing but veiled sex, prohibiting her from any of her own Eros feelings being developed for her to enjoy and make wise decisions about! Had she been kept as "mother's little girl (phase 1, approx 0-7) far past the girl and that kind of relating had moved into phase 2 Female Nature Nurturing? Leaving the girl with nightmares of males trying to hurt her?

    • Let us take a moment to clarify that "molesting" can be taken in many senses here. If you hear the word and assume it meant that the poor "child" had been physically injured, or even mentally overpowered, we could be wrong on both counts. Because it is more often used, especially in legal forums and courts to simply indicate that the current social expectation for a youth's growth path had been detoured from (thus "molested"). So if caring touching of a young person's body had been compartmentalized into only mothering sharing by cultural expectations, (even though the mother herself might have had Eros pleasure inside her for doing so), then anyone else doing so would be called "out of place" or "out of category" and thus molesting the path somehow (by whom, when, how?) made taboo, when before such conventions no such prohibitions were in place. Maintaining this convention, by the way, prevents girls from being able to see others as loving people, able to love her with warm and caring touches all over her body too, and makes many boys think that their own Fathers, who have the social approval to spank him if he disobeys his mother when he isn't there, don't love them "Why doesn't my Father Love me? (my Mom does,) Why doesn't he ever touch me lovingly too?!" or "Why doesn't he ever get close enough to me to teach me about my own Male body and it's feelings?" Such a boy might say "I want a Father who is my best Friend, not just a disciplinarian!" or "I'm not in the Army... I don't have to think everyone coming close is my enemy!"

So, just to pique your curiosity, consider this...

In the preceding scenario, Ghislaine Maxwell is NOT the Phantom of this Opera, Nor is Jeffrey Epstein, Nor are any of the men receiving massages. If you think you understand this "best case" scenario, and want to compare your take with the scenario we're inviting readers to consider thinking about here, not only for the better understanding of this issue, but all males as well, (and the answer is on these pages, though indirectly,) you're welcome to write GOMVP via email, below ( just keep scrolling down this set of pages, to send your thoughts with a nickname you like).

Hint: It really helps to think philosophically about this issue (along with thinking how its various assumptions and meanings are being conflated between values judgments and automatic emotional responses, within a nebulous mist of hidden actual information, and seemingly unfathomable taboos) to see the whole story of what is multidimensionally going on, from a very high level... the 100,000 foot level needed!

Clue: When might it be the case, and what does it take, to realize that we can be THINKING about one issue generally and feeling accordingly to that thinking, while APPLYING it to something quite particularly, physically else, in what may prove to be another entire context, at the very same time?

Latest Update: As of the latest Supreme Court rejection of a Ghislaine Maxwell appeal (Oct 2025) based on technical agreements between former prosecution and defense negotiations, the legalities reviewed may have been in order, but since legalities don't get to the heart and soul MEANINGS, the deeper meanings of the behaviors being referred to in these cases are still lost to a public who desperately want to know, but have thus prevented their own fuller recognition of. it is here that Philosophical Overview analysis and subsequent human intuiting insight are needed to reveal meanings not programmed into our present societal narrative and resultant laws and expectations. By understanding P2s philosophical overview and explanations, we can understand not only who or what the actual "Phantom" in this scenario IS, but why our society keeps making the same mistakes when it comes to the meanings of our own bodily activities, and what we need to do to understand each other better than current assumptions (which don't even try... and just rely on repeating preventative values judgements turned laws to "control" male behavior females only know one meaning for) stop us from doing.

The Uvalde, Texas and Minneapolis, Minnesota shootings...

     Though this is a philosophical analysis of a troubled boy's mindset and emotions, we will examine some of the facts themselves from this sad case... to see if we can put ourselves in the shoes of the deranged boy and try to fathom his inner motives. From available information, Salvador Ramos was a bullied, scapegoated, hardened, contemptuous, and deprived teen who was almost exclusively seen as a victimizer / sociopath in news accounts of his massacre of innocent children at Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas. It was located within a hundred miles of the Texas / Mexico border.  After turning 18 the first thing he did was to buy an AR 15 repeater style rifle, and over 1500 rounds of ammunition, and then proceed to invade his old elementary school, dressed in black, as if in a military operation, then to heartlessly kill 19 elementary school students, 2 teachers and wound many more (18) as well.  It was as if he was trying to solve disregard for his own self in his childhood life by putting video game tactics into his real life at his former elementary school, then put himself in a position to be killed himself.

     I say not only “contemptuous” ( the attitude of how disregarded he had felt himself, displaced onto the way he emotionally mistreated the student victims  he shot,) but “deprived” teen because it was the circumstances he was born into, and the way he was being raised, by females with little or no understanding of who a boy with his special needs IS that forms the background for a very sad "childhood." If the accounts which explain that his father left while he was still a baby, and only kept brief contact with him til adolescence, then little or no contact with him at all, are correct, then Warren Farrell's “Boy Crisis” missing Dad analysis certainly applies here!

Yet the underlying fundamental cause in this kind of case is the absence of the father's or even a father figure's live together presence during nearly his entire adolescence... leaving him without any older male caring support or model for him as the individual male he was, outside of more distant relatives. His particular circumstances formed the emotional background from which his heinous behavior emanated. While Video games may have contributed to giving him an example of how to express his inner frustrations, with “anger satisfying imaginary kills,” an experience he may have had, we cannot give them as a preventable reason in themselves. Missing older male friendship and guidance was a clear deprival of his Phase II male development growth support needs, not only leaving him without personally meaningful ways for how to deal with some of the unhappiness in his life, with genuine live in examples of kind  older males to draw from, leaving him without the genuinely felt and unconditional love of someone like himself who understands him... both philosophically and psychologically, which is the more emotionally underlying reason for what led to the attitudes he acted from. Attitudes formed from emotions that led him to take out aggression on the helpless before his weapons, as he felt he had been taken advantage of himself prior to his tragic outburst (as well as some physical challenges of his own, i.e., a lisp others made fun of, for example.)  

While you would be right in saying that none of this excuses him from responsibility he KNEW from his everyday life in societal interactions, and wouldn't want to happen to him, this is a case of someone feeling so hurt and so compromised over time, because of it, that he reversed the Golden Rule to "do unto others as had been done to him" in an attempt to answer the resultant emotional imbalance within himself which may have been the impetus driving him to the edge. When anyone, especially the young, are subjected to continuing stress, it deteriorates the credibility of the expectations of those around him, and centers on showing others how he had been made to feel. 

Left basically with no real help, his individual male sensing was so overwhelmed by others plans and expectations for him, (probably mostly feminine) that his male identity was left to a kind of video game societally glamorized mentality imagination land. He quarreled with his mother, who was known to be using drugs much of the time, for some ten years before his inner turmoil, became the sad event it did. He shot his grandmother in the head (despite his living with her) that same day, before returning to the grade school he had attended and started shooting everyone in sight there; classrooms 111 and 112 particularly. Clearly his inner balance had been so disregarded, violated and disturbed by what indeed looks like a complete and utter disregard of his MALE identity growth needs, by females and societal assumptions, who may have portrayed themselves as “knowing what’s best” for him, that he just plain couldn't take it any more. His inner male heart was rejected... over and over... til he hardly felt like it was there any more... and he felt so wounded by this experience, that all he could do was strike out at a world that never gave him the chance to be interacted with for his own good self or share his value, too.

Trying to assert a masculinity he never had the help to personally develop, his resultant, if emotionally desperate behavior turned into a needless massacre, even blindly against other who had little if anything to do with it, simply because he had never learned to FEEL love for them, individually, as friends he valued. Psychologically you might say his damning expressions were also a plea for help and a message to those who never listened to him long enough to know him, as well. If he had only had an older male in his life interested in HIM for the growing MALE he was, and UNDERSTANDING of his needs wants and desires as a male, complete with approving, appreciation, and affirmation of the MALE person he had become, he would have felt meaningfully WANTED, and a sense of belonging WITH him to spend time together... an older male who WANTED to listen to the boy before he ever became so emotionally immersed with such mistreatment at school and at home, and mistakenly thought that the way to get inner relief and outer respect and attention was to take on and use a military persona, and attack others as he had felt himself disregarded and fed pain to live on. With an MNN (Phase II) relationship, he would have been valued for the BOY he was and given hope to chart his own dreams from that caring experience...

I truly don’t believe this tragedy, which we now automatically associate with the town of Uvalde, Texas, without it intending any such thing, would ever have occurred if he had had an older male bond (MNN). Using the above chart, introduced in the Ghislaine Maxwell article prior to this one, above, on this Current Events dots to connect deeper dive of working to understand, he not only was missing Phase II, but most probably Phase III as well. Something that the Male Nature Nurturing discussed in The MALE Solution to the Child Molester Dilemma*(and a whole lot more): For Today, and for the New Stage to come (See Summer “page a day” section) explains how essential and yet missing it is in current female based and culturally imposed emotional regulations and what we must do to revise, establish and encourage it to include boys’ Older male personal interest, genuine affection based intimacy, and shared living experiences, for a healthier and happier male recognition for all our boys to grow up in.

Can you raise your consciousness with me enough to imagine how horribly that boy must have felt inside himself (from a reality he detested so much that he saw no way out of being locked in to accepting the pain it caused him to feel, or not be accepted at all), to empathize with the inner feelings that were causing him to strike out so viciously at everyone around him, blind to their value from having had his own value rejected? Can you see how his being a victim of THAT misunderstanding of his own identity and value, self and need to be respected, became the root of where his victimizing others, reciprocal negativity for all he had suffered in the past, without distinction, came?

Can you see here, how lame attempts to make guns harder to obtain is actually “barking up the wrong tree” to prevent further such occurrences? (Though it will mechanically help regardless, to raise the age limit, for buying guns) Or, how reading the book above, and taking its advice seriously, towards helping create a new social narrative that INCLUDES Phase II and Phase III for our young, DOES address the fundamental reasons for this and other tragedies like them? 

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In the Minneapolis shooting of 2025, even generally speaking, we have a unique case, in which a young male was made to feel that he had no outlet for his tender range of MALE emotions and feelings, and came to believe that he had to LOOK LIKE a FEMALE, and even pretend he WAS one, to have any such feelings respected by people who had been taught to believe males didn’t have them! The boy himself, from photos and information given about him, looked like a fine young fellow with a fine future, but what was going on inside him was the fault of those who prevented him from getting the older male intimacy support he needed AS THE BOY he was, and probably from around age 7 if not before. That, like the case of Salvador above, he ended up trying to say, prove and become the only kind of “man” he thought would prove he really was a “man,” says volumes about why we need to change our social narrative to include the caring side of the emotional spectrum, which Male Nature Nurturing in Phase II older Male Eros enhancing affection based relating and bonding would have set him on to the positive masculinity track which today’s culture has inadvertently thrown out.

After having let this idea of turning himself into a girl to express his loving feelings set in, he gradually tried the idea on... he let his hair grow to “looking like a female’s,” and wearing feminine clothes, and living with a man who helped him normalize that identity. But not even having reached the end of his teens, the biological boy he physically was came to the depressing realization that his feminine gender persona was all a sham, and he felt horrible about himself and what he had become. He wanted to cut his hair off, and get rid of the idea he was a girl, and being thus lost... both mentally and emotionally confused, made the difficult decision to start acting like the man who had no feelings he assumed was what he had to be like to be respected as. Releasing years and years of pent up frustration and confusion he took out video game fantasy shooting, on real people and a caring institution because he just plain had come to assume the others thought of life as a game to conquer others to show his “manhood” and relevancy.

Using the Chart above, his situation is reflective of a boy who missed his Phase II older male support, and would have both recognized and normalized THAT through the genuine intimacy of an older male who loved him for who he really was AS A BOY. By the time he was getting the default trigger all males get at around 13 to impregnate females, he probably not only didn’t know what to do with it, and wanted to use it, but was told to ignore it and “just say no” until he was 18. But by then he was probably so confused that he couldn’t even face life, let alone lead a “normal” one! So frustrated and unable to express his true male feelings, that he felt victimized by the kinds of ideology he saw as disregarding his male feelings. Ironically the very Catholic Church that was trying to promote the loving masculinity of Jesus, was mistakenly perceived by him as PREVENTING the kind of loving feelings he had as the caring male individual he was trying to be, but our society had no “place” for. The lack of personal attention for the self he was trying to become earlier in his life was the underlying cause preventing him from relating to Jesus as having a similar problem as well... the misunderstanding of who HE was as a truly life loving Male by an “old wineskin” social narrative and order that had no place for it in their expectations, either.

That he got so frustrated and angry inside, could only eventually boil out over into his everyday life, and took the form of a shooter... yes we have had many young males in the same kind of position... not all with this young male’s unique situation, but with others in which, again, the Phase II older male support and genuine affection based, MALE Eros enhancing support of older males for his growing masculinity wasn’t there. Thanks to Radical Feminists, all females have mistakenly come to think that any older male’s close and intimate friendship is nothing but a red flag and automatic “sexual abuse” to criminalize and eliminate with all the female weapons at her disposal (see Jordan Peterson’s explanation of the passive weapons females use to gain control over males... [innuendo, character defamation, gossip.] Also, emotional extortion, alienation, silence and demonizing emotional attack, too, as if there is no such thing as Eros development for the boy at all! NO sense of proportion, no sense of Male sensitivity and Male sensuality degree, just throwing the “baby” of growing male positive emotions OUT with the bathwater of violent negative male behavior. (Not even realizing how very much such feminine reactions does to CREATE that negativity, itself!)

Was this boy’s final shooting madness a plea for help... or was it a statement that he was a MAN and could indeed act like the examples he was given by females who never allowed him to learn any other emotionally rewarding identity for manhood, or men who wanted to keep those females happy and never realized they had bought that logical fallacy, themselves, if to a different degree. His “proof” to them that would indeed “teach them a lesson” was reminiscent of the Scottish pedophile who, despite his attempts to love kids, was treated as worse than a murderer, so he went and murdered some 25 children to SHOW those labeling him the difference they were refusing to recognize, at the price of throwing his life away as well, doing so. Two wrongs do NOT make a “right,” but the man didn’t know any other way to communicate his feelings to a society that didn’t try to understand his side of the story. How could he have asked his society to revise their metrics to accommodating caring males’ feelings for youth, given them by life, and robbed from them by insightless social oversight and inflexible demands, when they didn’t even seem to know the difference between his KIND of love for the young, which, indeed could have been life motivated for the good of both!

With such a realization it is much easier to understand how not only this boy, but so many other boys “crack” under the RELENTLESS pressure of females to make males fit into their “boxes” of “societal propriety” (which are really just another name for female values, interests, fears and expectations imposed onto males as if they should react and be treated the same way girls are!) This kind of tragedy, as well as trans-gender miseries for so many kind and friendly boys, has more and more mushroomed into the societal consciousness, as females coerced senators to pass laws making it impossible for boys to live with fathers when separated, and simply declared that anyone under 18 should be a “child” under her control, and would learn more when placed with a mother than a father... totally ignoring what males need to develop wholesome and happy MALE emotional lives!

Certainly another takeaway here is that we need to redraw all the assumptive rules and laws put in place, to keep certain females from immediate and unexamined credibility just because she complains loud enough (“squeaky wheel” syndrome), and to start letting the people it effects most... boys themselves have a say in self determining their own lives... their BOYS’ RIGHTS to their own growing masculinity as LIFE created it... and to relationships with those who know more about boys from having BEEN boys (something no female can say she has been with a straight face) and that the state has been misled to giving the women the appearance of doing more work to “protect” boys from older men, when they only use misrepresentative examples to excuse their preventing boys from learning and living their own male nature, as soon and as long, as possible to further her own interests at males’ emotional expense!

Keeping boys “children” does not do boys any favors. While there are some cases where an older male has been violent in the past with drugs, drinking, guns, knives or just plain overpowering attitudes, the core reason men get that way is because of the lack of loving options open to them in this female emotion dictating social narrative way we currently evaluate male behavior with, those cases are the distinct minority, NOT the “rule”... Female expectations for males, especially since the time of “prohibition” (drinking most probably caused by women who mistakenly thought men had to live up to her marital expectations... nitpicking females... trying to make men conform to her female based expectations, and not realizing either how males are CIRCULATORY by nature, nor how the social contract needs to regard all male loving feelings as valuable to creating a loving environment for us all to live in, NOT just female mothering which should normally be winding down by about age 7, but instead today being DISPLACED onto everyone else as if that’s all we need to get along with each other!

Listen closely to Harry Chapin’s “sniper” recording (Harry Chapin gives a stunningly moving account of what such males driven to the edge of insanity, say inside as they go over that edge). His emotion filled words hit home with poignant meanings...

We need to STOP overgeneralizing genuine male intimacy with boys to mean the same thing as hardened men’s rape of young girls who need help to keep him away. Boys' feelings are different, and MATTER too! We need to STOP conflating Phase II Male Eros development with Phase III opposite sex mating, and realize how displacing THAT misunderstanding of our own natures, is “sexual abuse” while all the development, which can be used to enjoy life  either alone or together in many ways such as mutual nakedness, Eros discovery and shared joy, can't be used, per outdated social narratives not taking these differences into account. Though it looks to the uneducated as if “anything to do with male arousal is a form of rape” and must be prevented, with zero tolerance, Eros can associate across a wide range of degrees and amounts, and its kinds of activities, and their immediate outcome, are NOT the same thing as "reproductive danger" at all! In fact it is the absence of any real same sex Eros development that most often leads to the overgeneralized use of Phase III, just to relieve the inner pressures. Again, older male Male Eros development intimacy with boys is NOT the same thing as sexual abuse, but, realizing and relating together at the boy’s own level, and is the very currently misunderstood personal emotional support boys need to stay sane and feel confident as the GOOD MALE they ARE!!!

What did the shooter FEEL inside himself?

From what experience, or lack of experience ? ...

And so experiencing FEEL and THINK he was doing?!

If boys getting their Phase II Male Nature Nurturing would never be driven to commit such an atrocity, don't you think it is worth our time to help boys avoid the same destiny Salvador had no such help to?...

The Russian bombings of Ukraine...

Good Males Mistakenly labeled Victims or Victimizers...

How could loving priests treat boys unlovingly?

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